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Rest in Peace, Terry Mathews

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Re: Rest in Peace, Terry Mathews

Postby Mark A Steiner » Mon Jul 22, 2013 1:10 pm

Totally agree with Jay's post. What more can one say? Hard to measure this tragedy within the community here.
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Re: Rest in Peace, Terry Mathews

Postby oddharmonic » Mon Jul 22, 2013 2:54 pm

Louis Mathews wrote:
larkinrx2 wrote:
wildlobo71 wrote:I've been in contact with the woman who Terry gave his computer to. I don't know, right now, if this is appropriate or not but I asked her if Terry gave instructions to her or not about what to do with it, or the files on it. She said he hadn't.

I thought it might be a nice legacy for all he's done here and how he helped those with so much information to salvage his GPX and GPS files, at the very least.... I told her I'd let her know if people thought it was a good idea. Thoughts?


I think "possesion" should be asked of the family and if they can agree to have the 14ers site be the host for his material. possibly offer to copyright stamp the photos to protect their rights to futher publishing if they wish to continue his calanders....


Terry's friends have claimed all his property except for the items mentioned in his final message. They told me that Terry gave verbal instructions about his stuff. I am not interfering with that. As next of Kin it is my job to tie up the legal, financial, and final arrangements. My emotional state is fragile at best so I don't have the energy to take care of Terry's affairs as I should. This makes me quite sad.


I've also been in contact with the friend that has Terry's computer; in his final message, I was among the people asked to make a private entry on his LiveJournal - a separate thing from his personal website - public. Since that service does not allow others access to protected entries without a court order, I am waiting until things settle down a bit to ask the friend with the computer if he saved his LiveJournal password on the hard drive since he did not give his login information to any of the people he asked to change the privacy setting on that entry. (If any of you are also LiveJournal users, please do not ask to have his account there memorialized. That will be done after accessing the post he wanted made public as entries cannot be edited after the account is placed in memorial status.)

That said, I think sharing his GPX and GPS files would be an excellent legacy. I'm not well-informed enough on intellectual property law to have an opinion on what could be done with his photography. I'm sure we can seek some professional guidance to find a solution to that that works well for everyone.

Since the topic of photography has come up, please be aware if you are attending the celebration of life this weekend that I have arranged for a professional photographer to cover the event. There will be an online photo gallery afterward since I felt that was the best way to share with folks that cannot attend the service.

As always, Louis, if you need anything you have my contact information. Terry was an honorary member of my family and I'm happy to do as much as I can to support you in your own process.

Regards,
Melissa

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Re: Rest in Peace, Terry Mathews

Postby Bowman » Mon Jul 22, 2013 5:04 pm

I read this post about a week ago, but, being out of town, I have not yet had a chance to comment.

I am deeply saddened by Terry's passing, and to those who were close to him, please accept my condolences.

I only met Terry once. A few years ago, Terry posted an open invitation on 14ers.com to hike with him to Barr Camp on Thanksgiving Day. Having had no family in the area to share the holiday with, my wife and I accepted his offer. We met for dinner in CS the night before and hiked up to Barr early on an unusually cold November morning.

We had a wonderful day with Terry, spending several hours at Barr Camp drinking hot chocolate and chatting with him. It was truly one of my favorite holiday experiences, and one that I will always remember.

Though we chatted about meeting up in the future to hike, I never pursued it, as Terry progressed to hikes and climbs beyond what I was ready to attempt. I've regretted not pursuing the opportunity to hike with Terry again.

Rest in peace, Terry.
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Re: Rest in Peace, Terry Mathews

Postby jdorje » Thu Jul 25, 2013 12:17 am

Has it really just been 10 days? It feels like so much longer...the range of emotions no doubt contributing. Though I only met Terry a few times, we talked regularly. We hiked together just once - I had to really dig to find my pictures from it, but they were disappointingly few. I didn't know about his close call with a car decades ago. I didn't know about his minor(?) fall, described earlier in the thread. I remember he had a close call with a slide on steep snow, that he got under control just in time. I would have liked to reread that trip report, and others he did.

I keep remembering funny anecdotes, then forgetting them again: like how we drove all around Crestone looking for a restaurant that could promise peanut safety (eventually he had to risk it). One in particular, not funny at all, stands out. We talked about a person who was missing at that time. I remember saying "that's not going to end well", and his emotional response. The person's body was eventually found - probably a suicide (my opinion - details omitted). I have wondered if Terry made that connection, and if it had any impact on his decision. I've wondered if I'd discussed it again with him, if it could have made any difference.

I didn't talk to him much since Rob's death, but he was quite clearly not the same. After Steve's death I should have realized just how bad a shape he must have been in, but I was reassured by his emotional yet reasoned words. I feel he was just as much a victim of Rob and Steve's accidents as they were. Maybe I'm just looking for an easy answer, but that was my immediate reaction the moment I saw the thread topic show up.

From what I have read, suicide is a greater risk for those living at elevation. I do know that oxygen deprivation generates a feeling of euphoria at altitude, and I have also experienced the opposite feeling of brief depression when descending. This is neither explanation nor consolation nor lesson, unfortunately.

Terry...goodbye. You will be missed.
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Re: Rest in Peace, Terry Mathews

Postby Louis Mathews » Thu Jul 25, 2013 1:39 am

I compiled photos from here and scan childhood photo's people might like, here is the link to my Windows Live Sky drive.

http://sdrv.ms/13cOm2R

Enjoy. I will post a few a day on my face book album Terry Lee Mathews http://www.facebook.com/louis.mathews louis.mathews@facebook.com
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Re: Rest in Peace, Terry Mathews

Postby summitstep » Thu Jul 25, 2013 4:48 am

Louis, thanks for the walk through the life of a good young man. So many memories for you to look back on, so much beauty Terry got to see in his time in the mountains. Hope you and your family find some comfort in these photos and in knowing all he accomplished and how many people he left his mark on. He is truly missed. God keep you strong and we'll keep you all in our prayers.
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Re: Rest in Peace, Terry Mathews

Postby somethingrandom » Fri Jul 26, 2013 12:42 am

wildlobo71 wrote:I've been in contact with the woman who Terry gave his computer to. I don't know, right now, if this is appropriate or not but I asked her if Terry gave instructions to her or not about what to do with it, or the files on it. She said he hadn't.

I thought it might be a nice legacy for all he's done here and how he helped those with so much information to salvage his GPX and GPS files, at the very least. I know he had files for the LB/Blanca traverse I would love to have access to in case I ever wanted to do it again.

I told her I'd let her know if people thought it was a good idea. Thoughts?


Without knowing Terry's requests with his info, I really dont know. Knowing Terry, I would think he would want these shared as the mountains were when he was most free but we were not close for me to really know. I am sure Louis knows or knows the people that know, but the Terry that I did know would have interest in helping people further their mountain knowledge and hopefully we can find out his true interests. If not, I certainly respect his family's decision either way.
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Re: Rest in Peace, Terry Mathews

Postby jam6880 » Fri Jul 26, 2013 9:12 pm

:cry:
Louis Mathews wrote:Terry's Obituary, the time for his Celebration Of Life Gathering is 7:30 PM 27 July 2013 Garden of the Gods, Colorado Springs, in the old chuck wagon/amphitheater near the main parking lot, .15 mile from the entrance on 30th St across from the Visitors Center.

http://www.legacy.com/obituaries/gazette/obituary-print.aspx?n=terry-lee-mathews&pid=165889998

See you guys tomorrow night.

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Re: Rest in Peace, Terry Mathews

Postby globreal » Fri Jul 26, 2013 9:45 pm

Yes...for those who want to come ....please come out Saturday evening for a little memorial gathering in Garden of the Gods.

Come to the north parking lot and then hike a short ways south.

7:30pm

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Re: Rest in Peace, Terry Mathews

Postby Rock-a-Fella » Sat Jul 27, 2013 1:32 pm

Is there anyone in the Denver area who can bump out and pick up Terry's friend Melissa in Evergreen?
I am planning to drive over Indy Pass.

Give her a call if you can help.

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Re: Rest in Peace, Terry Mathews

Postby susanjoypaul » Sat Jul 27, 2013 10:31 pm

It was so nice to see so many 14ers.com people - and other friends, too - at the Garden tonight, and I hope to see you all again in happier times. We have more in common than the mountains... we had Terry, and now we have each other. Death has a way of showing us the brilliance of life.

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Re: Rest in Peace, Terry Mathews

Postby Louis Mathews » Sun Jul 28, 2013 11:55 am

Terry's Celebration of Life Ceremony last night at Garden of the Gods park was an inspiration for all of us in the immediate Mathews family and to his extended family of friends and acquaintances. I was absolutely floored by the turnout and expressions of love and admiration for Terry. I can't say it enough how grateful we are that so many were positively affected by our son's interactions with all the wonderful people in and out of the 14ers community.

Thank you who were there for us and Terry last night both in person and in thought and spirit. I was not sure if I could make it through the Remembrances but the strength that came from the estimated 100+ who were there was amazing. I realize it got dark afterwards but that was intentional as I envision Terry climbing to the other side of the mountain at sundown. Someday we all will climb to the other side of the mountain and the reunions with friends and family members who went before us will be glorious. http://www.facebook.com/photo.php?fbid=489854597764472&set=a.379297255486874.91915.100002198083280&type=1&theater

Thanks to Britt who I put on the spot to start off the event, you were great and I will forever be grateful.

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