susanjoypaul wrote:TallGrass wrote:susanjoypaul wrote:In fact, you should involve yourself as much as possible. Start asking him questions, like: 1) How many miles is it up to the lake? 2) How much does your pack weigh...
Might even ask how he's going to cross the all the beaver ponds.
He's looking to overcome obstacles and you're making yourself another one, thus he'll...
Not quite sure what you're trying to say here, but I am most definitely not trying to be "another obstacle" - just trying to encourage a little more thought and preparation by asking questions. Discovering the answers serves to educate, and that leads to making better decisions.
This approach generally leads to one of three outcomes:
(1) the person learns more about the potential obstacles, prepares for them, and is successful in his quest, OR
(2) he learns more about the potential obstacles and concludes that they require further investigation and preparation (delaying the quest) OR
(3) he determines that the obstacles are insurmountable, in which case the quest is abandoned.
I would never discourage anyone from chasing their dreams, but I still believe that - in the quest for success in reaching them - brains beats bravado every time.
I think I might have heard that "3 step" followed by "chasing this and that" on dr. Phil or something when I used to be "in touch" with myself. Then again- maybe not.