Tony's friends and family are here posting not because he asked us to.
Because we support him.
Because he is a stand up guy who deserves our support.
When Tony got off that mountain and made his calls for help- and was refused, he was distraught.
When he felt he had no recourse , he was swallowed whole by his guilt.
He did not know about this website, obviously- as he just joined it.
He truly felt she was gone, and he did not think he could do anything more.
As humans we all need to be able to justify our decisions to ourselves if no one else.
Especially if the choices you make are guilt racking.
He lost hope.
Right or Wrong, everyone copes in his or her own way.
That is the why of 8 days passing and why he went out of town to work, as he is obligated to do.
If he had allowed himself to think she was on that mountain alive and waiting-while he was working out of state- he couldn't bear to live with himself.
As a friend of his, as someone who knows his character, as a devoted dog owner/lover myself- Admittedly I even thought "how could he not go and look to be sure after?"
I know there is an answer to that, because that does not sound like a mistake Tony would make.
I read every post in this thread and someone in this community gave me an ahha! moment.
He accepted that he made a horrible mistake that cost Missy her life. He grieved, and prayed and tried to figure out how to deal with it.
He had no idea the ordeal was not over. The people he talked to tried to help him let it go, tried to sooth is pain by ensuring him she would not have survived.
Should his family and friends have convinced him otherwise? Maybe. I probably should have encouraged him to go and look if nothing else but to be sure.
Instead I respected his privacy during this difficult time, and had believed that he wouldn't have found her alive with her injuries.
Should he have held on to hope and found a way to return to be sure she wasn't waiting? In hindsight, obviously he should have. However, the mind is a powerful thing. He believed with his whole heart that he would only find her lifeless, or worse, if he found her at all.
Does throwing stones and being virtuous help now? No. It doesn't.
Missy was well cared for and immensely loved.
I can say this, because I saw it.
She was not "fat" as suggested by another poster.
Did she look fat at 100lbs in the rescue photos?
That comment was just silly.
We all make mistakes, sometimes we can not learn a lesson otherwise.
Tony has not only learned some things but has stood up in front of all of you and taken all your lashings with humility.
He has humbly asked for your forgiveness, thanked you profusely for rescuing Missy, and offered restitution.
He has admitted to his mistakes and shown remorse for his decisions.
What else could you ask for?
Whomever knows Missy's whereabouts would be well advised to contact Tony and give Missy what she is longing for most right now.
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on Tue Aug 14, 2012 10:59 am, edited 3 times in total.